Emotional Intelligence

From the reading on Teaching Emotional Intelligence in the Business School Curriculum and from my testing results I realized that in general emotions could give you a headache. I believe what Peter Drucker said, that self-management is the primary skill for success at work. It is something you develop on your own. There are a lot of steps, but you need to learn self-awareness and how to change behaviors and feelings if necessary. It is important to interact with others and explore to find out your answers. It is nice, for you have your data in front of your from just interacting and managing your self on a daily basis.
I wish we had a Self-management course like Quinnipiac University. I feel like those who would take the class seriously can get a lot out of it. It is a great learning experience to find out about you, your achievements, ways of conducting conflicts, opens your awareness of behavior, and others.
From my results on this test I was in the 87th percentile. These test fascinate me, they really get you thinking about how you break situations down in your head. Most of the time, the answer you receive can be very close to who you really are. I learned that intelligent people have an easy time overcoming situations and their able to control their moods. But can you really say this? Everyone is different but there are also sayings that some intelligent people don’t have common sense and vice versa. In the end, going through this 106 questing test and reading my results and the reading got me thinking about how I act. I am very friendly and can deal with others emotions but I am learning more and more about emotions and how to handle certain situations in pointing out (in addition) certain flaws that I have, that I can work on to help improve my situations I face in my daily life. Improving my flaws and working to become more confident on my emotions it will lead me to success later in life. Getting out in the real world after college you work with people and their personalities that might not always match yours. Not being set in a classroom can open your eyes to new learning experiences and can only help you as a person.

Interpersonal Communication and Conflict

Communicating to someone else when in a conflict can be very difficult and stressful. In some ways it seems like there is no way out because you and the other person have such strong view point that it seems impossible to come to a conclusion. In those cases you must take a breath, step back, and give your self-time to cool down. It is healthier and reduces conflict so both you and the other person can think the argument over.
Communication techniques that I use to reduce my conflicts is I listen to what they have to say and usually I’ll respond saying “I understand what you are trying to say but, …” or many times especially if the conflict is really heated I walk away and basically say I am not dealing with this right now. I do get heated so in order to calm myself down I have to walk away and think about what I want to say first. I do tend to be very blunt which is not always the best answer. From those responses I choose to use to reduce my conflicts, I notice they can be unhealthy choices. For then my situation is still not over, and the conflict is still there. On the other hand, the first one I mentioned about agreeing with them and restating my view is a healthy choice.
Everyone is different and takes situations into their own frame of reference on how they want to deal with it. Conflicts are never easy, but it is something we all face every single day in our lives.

Self-Disclosure and Social Networking

After reading this article it made me realize that maybe I should check my Facebook to double check that I don’t have too much information about myself. More then what is said on social networks and who sees what (which is still an issue) living is more important. I do watch whom I add on Facebook and whom I accept requests from. In today’s world you can hardly trust anyone and there are way too many incidents where girls and mothers are getting raped, strangled and killed, or like the Tyler Clementi incident, committing suicide.
No one really knows the true dangers when networking with others, displaying information, and constantly updating your status onto what you are doing. There are many creepy men and women that will stalk you, kill you, or what Keri McMullen went through, had items stolen from her house. Now days many people especially the younger crowd are way too reveling about their information. If you ever look on a high school kids Facebook page, in most cases you can see their page even though your not friends with them. Also, they have information posted from where they are to what they like to do, how old they are, where they go to school, and so much more. The safety of everyone is cut back now that we have displayed some to a lot of information depending on the person on Facebook, Twitter, and all those other networking sites. You can find anything on the Internet and were one of many out there.